Monday, October 24, 2011

Finding the right person to marry you..

So at this point, you should know who the person you want to marry is.
BUT, you may not know who you want to have marry the both of you!

There are a few options here. Those who belong to a church probably have a priest they know and trust to perform their ceremony. If you and your fiancé belong to different churches, you may have to have difficult conversations, which may involve your parents and in-laws. Try being open-minded, compromising and consider having two ceremonies to make everyone happy.

If you aren't religious, you can have a civil marriage. You can choose to have it in court or hire someone to perform your ceremony at a different venue.

Another option is to have a friend or family member marry you. Depending on the law of the country you are living in, there are different procedures to follow. Here in Quebec, Canada, there are certain professions that allow performing legal marriages: court clerks, notaries, mayors. But most people can be ordained for a day to marry someone they know and care about. It can be special to have a friend or relative marry you, because they know you well and can personalize the ceremony.

Whichever option you choose, make sure to contact the person you want to have perform your ceremony a few months in advance, because they may be booked way ahead of time. Also, take the time to sit down with that person and your fiancé, to talk about the type of ceremony you want. Usually, it can be adapted to include things you want, such as readings, or little traditions, such as sand ceremony or candle ceremony.

Next week, we talk about shopping for bridesmaids and groomsmen attire !

Have a great week girls!
xoxox

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